BrokeupBetty replied to the topic This is the message of apology I just sent...
@Unfair85 I commend you for this. I commend you for your balance between humility and self-assurance. What a powerful post. You admitted your mistakes and took responsibility for them, and it sounds...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Does Male cheaters ever comes back? in the...
@maskedcat just like @Unhinged101 said, no one here can predict whether or not you will hear from you ex again. But we can share our own experiences… My experience is that every ex has resurfaced at...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic A SUGGESTED COPING METHOD in the forum MAIN...
@josey I support any coping method that doesn’t harm the self or any other. I think this strategy is great for anyone who values a structured approach to reaching a goal! In the beginning especially,...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic I have become a stalker!! in the forum MAIN...
This is a great thread everyone. When I was younger I went through a terrible time when I was absolutely obsessed with one guy. This included desperate behaviors such as stalking. It went on for more...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic I want to send an email to my ex in the...
Hi @ASmash. My familiy’s experience with our member who has bipolar disorder (untreated because she refuses,) is that it is unrealistic and frustrating for us to try to hold her to the same standards...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty started the topic Welcome new members! A couple of reminders of...
Hello! I see lots of new people in the forums. Welcome everyone! I’m BrokeupBetty. I have been helped greatly during the 9 months or so I’ve been here. I’m doing great, and I stay here because I...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Dangerous territory. in the forum MAIN...
Hi @stillastar it’s nice to hear from you : ) Often our inner selves know what’s best if we can stay quiet and listen. What does your inner voice say you should do?
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic For thinking that I knew better and could...
Hi @trebbled. I’ve been thinking about you since you posted about considering meeting up with him. I’m sorry to hear about your pain and dissapointment. I’m sorry to see you posting in the “I hate...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Time for NIC? in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In
@Annalise, @MissStone, @Nicknack78. I just closed my eyes and breathed a grateful sigh reading your posts in this thread. I have been messaging recently with a longtime member. I will be honest about...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Music or songs for the exaholic in the...
No Patsy Cline fans here? The original exaholic songbook.
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Hello my name is Holly and I am no longer...
@holly1403. Thank you, cheers to you. Your voice is needed on this site, and you could never tell your story too many times. You have been a rock for all of us here, in what you post publicly, and in...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Hello my name is Holly and I am no longer...
@MusicMan03 that is awesome that you went to the game on your own, I’m still touched that you took up my challenge of going to a restaurant by yourself, and that is was empowering for you : )...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic 6 months later in the forum MAIN Daily...
@mirelda this post was so refreshing. You have accomplished the first requirement of recovery, one that is so difficult. You said: “I can hope, cling, pine, be frustrated, throw tantrums and be a butt...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic My first post / checkin in the forum MAIN...
Hi @Popple86! Welcome to the site and congratulations on writing your first post. It may not seem like it right now, but in reading your story what I see is that you have a solid foundation upon which...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic My first post / checkin in the forum MAIN...
And how could I forget to mention Not Initiating Contact!?!! I probably forgot because it’s not even something that I am conscious of at this point. Not contacting my ex is now just my lifestyle. It...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic If you could go back and change time... in...
I haven’t been as active recently. I came back tonight to read and post out of a desire to inspire others. So interesting that this topic stood out to me. From where I stand now, I wouldn’t change a...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic If you could go back and change time... in...
@MusicMan03 I just re-read your response. So beautiful to read- “the changes I’ve made have produced a much richer life for me.”
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic It's been a while in the forum MAIN Daily...
@SpooledUp thanks for the update and the “shout out!” You sound like you are doing great. I knew that college would bring a fresh new start for you. Keep texting the cuties, and call them live...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Ex being very mean in the forum MAIN Daily...
@MSL77 I am sorry to hear that you are in pain because of this behavior from your ex. I know the pain is real. I also understand the perception of meanness that you are getting from the things he says...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Ex being very mean in the forum MAIN Daily...
@Jema awwww that’s one of the nicest things anyone’s ever said : ) I’m very glad if anything I say helps. @MSL77 I know how hard it is getting to acceptance. Here is something that helps me- I believe...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic To be honest, I WANT HIM BACK. in the forum...
@PDReader Welcome to the site! And congratulations on this post. You have declared that you want him back. This sounds to me a lot like Step One of this recovery program: Step One – We admit to...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic What Does Contact Get You? in the forum...
@Mirelda Thank you for sharing this blog. It’s new to me, and I like the author’s voice. Anyone who’s been around for a bit and has read my posts has probably seen that I often lean toward the...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic I feel so horrible tonight in the forum...
@PDReader BrokeupBetty here. I came here tonight to draft a message to you responding to the question you asked me a few days ago, when I saw this. I’m going to put my answer on hold for a moment-...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Hope still exists! in the forum MAIN Daily...
@aarkulk I commend you for your candor and the courage to share yourself so intimately for the benefit of others. I wish you the best and have complete belief that you will recover completely. Cheers!...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic I forgive. in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In
@GreatScott I love your post. What I love most about your post is that it is only about YOU. your ex wasn’t anywhere in it. It’s wonderful to hear you speak this way. Keep going
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic I forgive. in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In
@MariaV2 you said something so empowering that I’m going to quote it in bold: he left because that is what he wanted to do. That is such a simple statement that it could be easily overlooked, but there...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic THIS FORUM IS ABOUT PERSONAL GROWTH WELL...
Hi @test-monkey! Of course I am all about this new forum, thanks for creating this. Looking forward to hearing some great insights from everyone. I’ve talked a lot about how riding and spending time...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic OVER IT ! in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In
@cheese1974 Thank for posting this, and congratulations on what you have accomplished in a year! I think it’s very important on this site to hear voices of those who have overcome the obstacles and are...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic OVER IT ! in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In
@KateWTOT I’m glad if anything I’ve said something you can relate to. I’ve been reading your posts, thank you for being so open about sharing : )
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic I need advice from the men on here in the...
@asan hi there. I’m not a man, but until some men post responses I’m replying in the meantime, and honestly, I think this is a situation that occurs regardless of gender. I’ve been reading your posts...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic I met my Ex again - feeling completely lost...
@asan With the right person it would only take one call.
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic I met my Ex again - feeling completely lost...
@asan And if that person didn’t answer, if it were right, it would feel right inside. You would be able to go to bed trusting that you would get a call back in the morning. When we are driven to call...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic I met my Ex again - feeling completely lost...
And that is Ok. The calling doesn’t make you “crazy” or any of the labels anyone may want to assign. And it wasn’t the “one thing” that caused irreparable damage. There is a reason you were in that...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic I met my Ex again - feeling completely lost...
I know how much you are suffering. I wish I could say there was another way, but if there is I haven’t seen it. The pain is real, and going through it is necessary : ( Trying to avoid it by allowing...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Something that helped you? in the forum...
This anonymous author runs a phenomenal website. She has more than 20 in-depth articles that cover every aspect of a breakup with clarity, empathy, and direct honesty. One of the best things she does...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Cool Breakup Comic in the forum MAIN Daily...
@CMD042414 thanks for posting this! It’s amusing and relatable. I especially found the ending thoughtful and done well.
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Encouragemant in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In
@cheese1974 hi cheese, nice to see you! Congratulations. Thank you so much for coming back to post this. Cheers!
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Diagnosed with major depression after...
@Holly, as always, you write with so much heart and truth and so much of yourself. Still committed to the community after all this time. Cheers friend, BB
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Diagnosed with major depression after...
@WhoKnows27 I’m so sorry to hear how hard this is for you. I know your pain- I was never diagnosed, but I can look back now and recognize that I experienced a major depression after a breakup many...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Has anyone else the same feelings of...
Thank you @Dani for raising this topic. My take on revenge for what’s it’s worth… Most of the times when I see posts about fantasizing or actually seeking revenge the situation involves the ex being in...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Helpful Link With Some Helpful Sub-links in...
Interesting. Some solid concepts that I agree with, such as acceptance, and refraining from letter-writing and social-media stalking. Some I find unrealistic, like a three-week deadline to be over it....
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Has breaking NC ever actually worked? in...
@Newday I’ve posted a bit about exes popping up at random times for random reasons. To date, every ex I was ever in a significant relationship with has resurfaced at some point, except the most recent...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic does she ever think about me ??? in the...
@missmygirl in my humble and completely personal opinion, (but based on years of experience) No. Months and years of the experiences of a relationship do not dissipate because a breakup occurred. Exes...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Text Craving in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In
Hi everyone. I wish I could say that there is an “off switch” for thinking about the ex and caring what the ex thinks, and craving to initiate contact. There isn’t : ( That’s why this community and...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic NIC in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In
@Yoda I commend you so much for everything in this post! You get it! I always reiterate that recovery is about taking action, especially when it’s difficult and we don’t like it, and it hurts. Your...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic When the broken heart has gone on for an...
@piningforknucklehead (Best Username of All Time!) I don’t use adjectives such as absurd, crazy, pathetic, or insane. For many people, coping with the end of a romantic relationship is one of the most...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic When the broken heart has gone on for an...
@MusicMan03 thank you for the Tim Keller quote. I’d heard of it vaguely but you presented it in a new, thoughtful context by relating it to recovery. You are always so personal and supportive when you...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Day 185 NIC -- She's expecting in the forum...
@MusicMan03 I was just about to sign off for the evening when I saw this! Wow! So many emotions surely! And I can imagine the emotions could change from day to day in the coming days. I know you know...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Distraction in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In
There are so many things you can do for distractions. I recommend things that require you to leave the house, and things that require focusing on something outside of yourself. Sports with other people...
View ArticleBrokeupBetty replied to the topic Didn't think I'd be back here like this in...
@SpooledUp Hello friend! It’s nice to hear from you (even given the recent occurrence.) I personally don’t have the words “should” or “shouldn’t” in my vocabulary. There is only what “is” and what we...
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